Creating Change Conference Etiquette
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In the pre-project 3 of "2020 National Conference on Medical and Welfare Education for Sexual Minorities", I reported that I participated in the largest LGBTQ national conference in the United States called Creating Change Conforence. It was also the reason why I strongly wanted to restart this National Conference on Medical and Welfare Education for Sexual Minorities. It can be said that North America stands out among other societies in the world where the treatment of LGBTQ people has changed so dramatically. The background to this was LGBTQ activism, which learned from civil rights movements such as the civil rights movement for blacks and women's suffrage, and spread vigorously throughout the country. At the center of this is the Creating Change Conforence.
This time, we would like to introduce the ground rules and etiquette guidelines that we were unable to introduce in the pre-planning, which are updated every year in the program. I hope you will find it helpful in organizing events and managing groups.
Etiquette introduction (PDF)
See below for the text version.
Etiquette guide for bisexual/pansexual/fluid people
Use blanket terms like "equal rights" and "marriage equality" instead of "gay human rights" and "same-sex marriage".
Questioning negative stereotypes of bisexuality.
Bisexuals often find themselves hidden or considered illegal. They have to come out multiple times, sometimes even to the same person.
Respect privacy and boundaries. Pause a moment before asking a question and notice the assumptions behind the question.
Recognize that bisexual people face the same discrimination and barriers as gays and lesbians in matters such as employment, health, marriage, immigration, custody, child custody and adoption.
I question my preconceptions about my “bisexual privilege.” Recognize that research shows that bisexuals are subject to greater stigma than gays, lesbians, and others.
Bisexual people have the highest rates of sexual violence among all sexual orientations, higher poverty rates, and disparities in mental and physical health compared to gays and lesbians. recognize that there is
Transgender bisexuals experience both biphobia and transphobia. Remember that they have high rates of exposure to violence, poverty and ill health throughout their lives.
Recognize that romantic relationships are independent of sexuality. Be positive in all relationships, monogamous or polygamous.
Do not insist that transgender or gender non-conforming people and their partners should drop the bisexual label and use other names.
Don't assume that transphobic or non-trans inclusive people use the bisexual label. Because that would erase trans people and bisexual people.
Accept that you may not fully understand someone's sexuality. Don't worry if you don't understand.
Etiquette for transgender/gender non-conforming people
● Gender person
Be mindful of the person's intended gender representation. However, we must also remember that we cannot tell a person's gender identity from their appearance. You can't tell someone's gender identity from their body or vocal behavior.
Politely ask questions such as, "Which gender person do you use?" or "What is your identity?" before using gendered words. If you don't have time to ask about such things, refer to the person by name or in a gender-neutral way, avoiding female/male, for example, "the person with the red shirt."
Call the person by the name you want them to call you, and use the gender person they want.
A person's gender may change. If you've met someone before and they use a different gender expression than before, politely ask them about their gender nomenclature.
If you mispronounce someone's gender person, simply correct it and move on. Don't try to justify your mistakes or be apologetic.
● Inclusive toilet
There is a “gender-inclusive toilet” that transgender people need. We have set up an educational poster at the conference.
Many transgender people start with a very unpleasant encounter in the bathroom, and in some cases even arrest or die. Make sure everyone can go to the bathroom safely, regardless of which bathroom you are in. It is up to each individual to decide which toilet to use.
Much like hotel restrooms, access to public restrooms is a political debate across America. "Gender-inclusive toilets" support an environment where everyone can use toilets without being monitored for sexual expression.
Listen to the needs and stories of trans people. But please respect their privacy and boundaries. Don't ask questions that other people won't ask. Do not make assumptions about another person's gender identity or expression. Respect how they like to be called.
Educate yourself through books, the internet, and transgender-themed workshops. Be a strong ally so you can respond appropriately to transphobic situations. Allies who learn from and with trans people are critical to the success of the transgender movement.
Etiquette for people on the asexual/aeromantic spectrum
Asexual
Defined as no/little sexual orientation or no/little desire for sexual contact.
Some people say they have more asexual feelings and experiences than other sexual orientations, even if they don't fit the strict definition of asexual.
Each asexual person experiences sexual arousal, attraction, and relationships in a different way, making the asexual community truly diverse.
It is impossible to conclude someone's behavior or physiology based on their identity along the asexual spectrum.
There are many additional identities on the asexual spectrum. Greysexual or demisexual.
● Gray Sexual
It's somewhere between asexual and sexual. Sexual attraction may be very low or infrequent, may be sexual desire, may be inactive, or may only feel sexual in certain situations.
● Demisexual
No sexual desire before having a strong emotional connection. For example, being sexually attracted after having a romantic or queerplatonic relationship.
Romantic Orientation (Romantic Orientation)
Many asexual people identify as having romantic feelings. Feeling romantically attracted to other people. This is different from sexual desire. It means that some people have romantic feelings even if they don't have sexual desire. For example, biromantic, heteroromantic, homoromantic, and panromantic. For many people, for example, if you are bisexual, you say that you find both men and women romantically and sexually attractive, but it can be different.
● Aeromantic
It means that you don't have romantic feelings and you have little desire to have them. Just like asexuality, this is a broad spectrum, with different levels of romantic feelings, including grey-romantic and demi-romantic. Ei-romantic people have a sexual orientation, such as LGB, and some self-identify as Ei-romantic.
● What to do
Recognize that asexuality and asexuality exist and that they are often dismissed or not considered legitimate identities.
Include asexuality when talking about sexual orientation.
Question negative stereotypes of asexual and aeromantic people.
Challenge the notion that "sex and relationships are inherently good for everyone" or that "sex and relationships should always go together".
Asexual and aeromantic people recognize that they often overlap with other queer identities.
Asexual and aeromantic intimacy and the ways in which they build relationships are varied and important, and should be respected even if sex and romance are not included.
● What not to do
Assume that the aeromantic is emotionless or incapable of love. (Aromantic people are emotionally active and have deep connections with others who are not romantically involved.)
Confuse asexuality with asceticism. Asceticism is behavior, sexuality is sexual orientation.
Questioning whether asexuality or aeromantics are true sexual orientations.
Assume that an asexual person is heterosexual.
Ask an asexual person if they masturbate.
Asking asexual people about their sexual activities and experiences that others don't.
Saying, "You just haven't met the right person" or you're hiding your LGBT identity.
A survey looking at asexuality found that one-third were transgender, non-conforming, non-binary, agender, and genderqueer. Fifty-one percent were on the ai-romantic spectrum, and 38 percent were bi-romantic or pan-romantic.
Guidelines for accessibility
There are discriminatory words that should not be used. Even if disabled people use the word, normal people should not use it. Same as okama or queer used in the LGBTQ community.
A person living with a disability is neither 'encouraging' nor 'pitying' for us. Obstacles are familiar.
Before helping someone, ask if they need help.
Even if you meet someone who is using a guide dog, you should not pet or feed the dog without permission, or get involved in any way. Help the person participate in the competition independently by not mentioning their existence.
Speak at an appropriate volume and speed so that everyone can understand. Actively listen and ask questions.
When speaking through an interpreter, speak to the person, not the interpreter.
Many people with disabilities participate in the competition. Disabilities affect how we learn, understand and communicate. Be tolerant and tolerant of those who learn, understand and communicate in ways that are different from your own. Don't have selfish beliefs just because you have a disability. If communication is difficult, try another method by writing or demonstrating.
Flashing lights can trigger people with epilepsy and other conditions. Avoid using camera flash in public.
The venue has spaces for people with disabilities in both the front and back. Be prepared to move if necessary.
To ensure smooth movement to and from the venue, please do not hang out or stop in the corridors to block traffic. Make sure everyone can move safely. Keep big, heavy doors open.
Some people have allergies or symptoms to odors, so we would like you to participate in a cent-free (no odor, no perfume, etc.). Also, refrain from using products with strong odors, such as shampoos and skin creams. If you use any of these products, stay away from the 'odorless zone'.
Smoking should be done in designated areas, and after smoking, stay away from the odorless zone.
doubt your own assumptions. There are also invisible obstacles. Everyone has the right to use the facilities without being criticized or asked.
Listening to the needs and stories of people with disabilities when they need help. But don't jeopardize privacy, boundaries, or dignity by asking unnecessarily private questions. People with disabilities are routinely looked at and treated with curiosity. Do your own research on what you want to know and avoid asking the person.
Through such learning, I would like you to become an ally of the disabled in the daily supremacy of the able-bodied.
Grand Rule: Create a positive environment
The competition is committed to creating a positive environment for the LGBTQ community and allies.
In order to build a stronger movement, I hope that all participants will learn a lot here, meet wonderful people from all over the United States, talk with each other, and connect with each other.
In order to maintain mutual dignity and maintain a positive atmosphere, I would like everyone to remember the following:
●This competition has two principles. Human rights and unity. Sexual harassment and all forms of violence are threats to both. Harassment, violence and bigotry create fear, shame and discomfort. They are expressions of power and dominance from one person to another. Sometimes even our unconscious words and actions can offend others.
Sexual harassment is sexual violence. Sexual harassment or sexual assault includes any unwanted sexual matter, including:
to refer to one's physical appearance or personal life
Unwanted pick-ups and advances
Offensive text, visual depictions such as graffiti and derogatory photographs
Touching the body without the person's permission
Unsolicited sexual demands, pressure, advances, or requests for sexual activity
Explicit comments about a person's body type or clothing
sexual abuse, slander
Rewarding for sexual favors or not rewarding for refusing sexual favors
sexual assault, rape, sexual violence
●Many participants will network and have sexual relationships during the competition. If you are going to have sex, we would say that consensus is paramount. Enjoy safely!
We are proud to be a part of and to host an event that is a place where our wonderfully diverse LGBTQ and allies welcome diversity in their sexual orientations, gender identities and expressions. I'm here. It is the responsibility of each individual to ensure that all LGBTQ, allies, and families are welcome and affirmed here.
Thank you for your cooperation in making this a safe and secure space where all participants feel like family at this competition. If you feel sexually assaulted, harassed, or threatened, please notify the event organizers at reception or on the lobby floor.
Etiquette is translated and introduced by the newly established C team project with permission from the Creating Change Conference.
When reprinting, please include the credits for the translations planned by the Creating Change Conference and the newly established C team.