Summary of ingenious tweets for LGBT to survive school life
Let's develop a survival method that suits you by referring to everyone's opinions!
1. Collect LGBT information.
If you get accurate knowledge of who you are, you will have less useless worries. Gather information from libraries and the internet. Do you meet people on the internet who are in a similar position to you? If possible, have your own computer or cell phone. Smartphone recommended. Also, be prepared to explain that this is not weird, just in case your sexuality is exposed.
2. Build supportive relationships.
Look for people around you who you can talk to, such as teachers in the infirmary, school counselors, and others who could be supporters. Also, keep an eye on human relationships so that you don't fall for bullying, and make friends who you can talk to when something happens, who you can rely on, and who will be on your side. It will be even better if you can live while giving hints to your family for the come-out day that will come someday, and connect with LGBT circles and peers of the same generation.
"I identified people who seemed to be able to come out by throwing the topic of BL."
“One friend at a time, one by one, I carefully came out and expanded the relationship where I could be my natural self.”
"When I consulted with my homeroom teacher, he was the worst guy, but when I consulted with my club advisor, he was a really nice person.
I'm glad I didn't give up the first time. ”
3. Check school events in advance.
It's good to be mentally prepared if you check in advance the schedules that you might end up with, such as school excursions, practical training, and sex education. There is also casually collecting information from seniors and others. If you have someone you can talk to, ask them to think about it together.
4. Choose a school that looks comfortable. It is OK to evacuate without overdoing it.
During puberty, body changes and relationships begin, so avoid them if you find them too disturbing. If you don't want to see men and women dating in front of you, or if you don't want to be made into a couple without permission, or if you're too envious of the body of the opposite sex with secondary sex characteristics and hate it, go to a girls' school, a boys' school, a part-time system, or a free school.・Consider other options such as the Daiken.
5. Think of convenient/comfortable daily necessities.
If you don't want to carry a bulky napkin around, use a tampon. If you don't like bras with wires, use a sports bra or panty shirt. Use neutral packaging for care products such as lotion. Try making it into something, or just wear your favorite pants and wash them yourself.
6. Think of a convenient/comfortable space.
When you don't want to change clothes with others, or when it's hard to go to the bathroom, it's convenient to have a space that you can use by yourself. It's also helpful to have a safe place to use when you're mentally exhausted or want to be alone. Infirmaries, unused classrooms, libraries, rooftops, clubrooms, etc. Whether it's at school, at a coffee shop, a fast food restaurant, or at a club, find a place where you feel comfortable. In the case of dormitory life, there are options such as changing the living time zone, leaving the dormitory and aiming to live alone, and sharing a room with friends.
"I was using the restroom behind the gymnasium where people don't come."
7. Negotiate with school.
Negotiate with the principal or the head of the grade to ensure that the child can wear the uniform of their choice, as well as make considerations regarding toilets, changing rooms, and swimming. In the first place, the student council will change the school rules that have been decided about uniforms, and the abolishment of the separate gender list will challenge the system reform.
"I just negotiated directly with the health and physical education teacher to teach homosexuality in class."
``I pointed out in the questionnaire that the class on gender lacks the perspective of sexual harassment.''
8. Have “healing”, “genki” and “reward” that you can do yourself.
“When I was tired, I used an aroma pot to fill the room with my favorite scents and read manga.”
"I slept for about 18 hours on my days off."
"I put up posters of my favorite idols and refreshed my eyes every day to replenish my energy."
9. Overcome and overcome difficult situations with imagination, concentration, and hope for the future.
"I tried not to think about anything by getting absorbed in club activities and studying."
"Relieve stress by pretending to be a gay character-like straight guy."
“Dissipate something from your youth through BL cosplay.”
“There was a job that I definitely wanted to do in the future, so I was able to work hard with that as my goal.”
10. Prepare a series of false settings so that you don't have to worry about responding. (Love version)
"What type of person do you like?" "What kind of person do you want to marry?" "Who would you like in this class?" Safe to keep. It can be a heterosexual version, or an otaku character version that doesn't fall in love, and I recommend something that is easy to continue.
11. Prepare a series of false settings so that you don't have to worry about responding. (Life)
"Why don't you let your hair grow?" "Why do you always skip swimming?" "Why do you hide your clothes when you're a man?" Consider the reason for "I'm playing sports, so my hair doesn't get in my way," "I have otitis media and can't go in the water," or "I have a scar on my back and don't want to be seen."
``I insisted that I was allergic to chlorine, so I went through with the swimming.''
"I spent my time in a jersey because I was playing sports and said skirts were inconvenient."
12. Students' main job is to study!
I will finish high school anyway. Study as much as you can! There is nothing better than expanding the possibilities of the future. It costs money to change your gender.
The world of school is quite cramped, but if you realize it, it's a very short period of time. If you think over a long span, the pain in front of you may not go away, but it may change your perspective and make it easier. Good Luck!
2012/6/9